Never. EVER. Never jump into a relationship with someone else based on looks alone. Or based on sex. I jumped so hard that I stupidly gave money when asked, assuming my ex was being honest. I went to the extent of getting engaged, only to find out about the whole other life my ex had.
There were so many problems and fears I could have avoided if I had taken the time to learn who the person was before doing anything else. I foolishly did not look closely enough. Had I know what I later learned, I would have stayed single.
And ironically enough… the sex was absolutely horrible.
Instead, I’ve had a very irrational fear of having a delayed infection with HIV. I know that new technology can easily catch that, but every so often, I voluntarily get myself tested.
My immune system is compromised, my doctor doesn’t know why and keeps telling me it’s not HIV, but that she doesn’t know what’s fiddling with my immune system.
That’s yet another reason that I’m not great marriage material. Just how could I get married to someone knowing about the psychological damage I have, the fear of having an STD when I haven’t had sex since 2010 and also the knowledge that I couldn’t give him children?
The last one might not matter at all, but the first two are serious problems.
~J. Lyst
I roll my eyes whenever I see all of the shows where people are chasing after others due to lust. There are so many issues that crops up when you get together just for that reason.
Another lesson would have the importance of asking my grandparents to press charges against my stepdad. Back then, I just tried to avoid that pervert instead of standing up for myself.
Hey, Miss J! 
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